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High Fives & Happiness: Put your positive pants on!

Put your positive pants on! Unknown.

I recently listened to a Building a Story Brand Podcast suggested by Rachel Hollis from The Chic Site around making decisions when motivation fails you that I found to be such an eye opener. Mel Robbins talks about the 5 Second Rule which a surprisingly simple concept that she has used in her life to see a dramatic turnaround. It’s one of those that you’ll slap yourself silly for not having thought of it yourself. It works to counteract the fact that 95% of decisions you make on a daily basis, from big to small, are based on the way you are feeling at that specific moment in time. That your decisions and ultimately your life path, no matter how logical or calculated you think they may be, are mostly dictated to by your emotions. Pretty scary if you think of all the times you’re at less than your best, have had a horrid school run, missed out on an opportunity or simply woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Continue reading “High Fives & Happiness: Put your positive pants on!”

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High Fives & Happiness: A smile is happiness you’ll find right under your nose.

A smile is happiness you will find right under your nose – Unknown.

I will not lie, it has been a trying couple of weeks and a time when I could probably have done with some extra reflection on the very many positives in our everyday life and yet, ironically this is when I am least able to do it. But it is a trying time that has passed and berating myself over things I can no longer change or impact is a grand waste of time so onwards we must go! One step (albeit a baby one) at a time, beginning with the moments that made the last week or so a happy one: Continue reading “High Fives & Happiness: A smile is happiness you’ll find right under your nose.”

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High Fives and Happiness: If you want to be happy, be.

If you want to be happy, be – Leo Tolstoy.

In the age of all things Google, there is a vast amount of information at the touch of our fingertips and I’m sure I am not the only one who gets caught in the miasma of checklists, how-to guides and “expert” opinions that do nothing more than cultivate our innate tendencies to over think EVERYTHING. I’ve become more prone to getting stuck in the planning and information gathering phase of anything and everything since becoming a mom, probably because the stakes seem higher than ever. The truth however, is that the stakes are the same, life decisions I make for myself are no more or less important than the life decisions I make for my family and honestly, not making a decision is probably much worse than making the less than perfect one. You can always change something if you do not like it, but you have to start by choosing the something and then doing that something. So this week, I’m aiming not to look for how and what to do to be happy. This week, is the week to just be it. Be happy. No pressure, no goal, no checklist. Just happy. Continue reading “High Fives and Happiness: If you want to be happy, be.”

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High Fives & Happiness: Some beautiful paths cannot be found without getting lost.

Some beautiful paths cannot be found without getting lost – Erol Ozan.

We don’t normally plan our holidays to death. The last few have been last-minute, spur of the moment decisions and while we have a general idea of options to explore and activities, we don’t really make firm plans until we are there and immersed in the holiday. Last week we ended up in Switzerland, simply because we knew Willie would be in Geneva for work and it made the most sense to meet him there. Continue reading “High Fives & Happiness: Some beautiful paths cannot be found without getting lost.”

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High Fives & Happiness: You must do the thing you think you cannot do.

You must do the thing you think you cannot do – Eleanor Roosevelt.

Earlier today, at one of the many Spring Break play dates that have been organised to keep the monsters semi-civilised, one of the moms shared that she was starting art classes. There was polite interest and the immediate assumption that she had an artistic streak and was finally pursuing it while a Stay At Home Mum in Dubai. We were wrong. She is not an artist, it is not an unnurtured passion of hers, it is actually a fear. Something that she had held back on for her entire life because she was shy, scared and intimidated. She had spent her life avoiding art because she assumed it was a “weakness”. Incidentally, she had also spent her life avoiding taking a pole dancing fitness class for the same reason and turns out she really enjoys it. It got me thinking about how many things in life we steer clear of because we have a preconceived notion about how good we would be at it? It also made me think that maybe we are creating those preconceptions in our children. How many times have you said, “Oh, little X is more artistic than sporty,” or something as simple as “You’re not ….. enough to do…..” So this week, I’m aiming to put away those preconceptions, about myself and those around me, and try out at least one thing I think I cannot do. Here’s hoping it ends up as one of next week’s High Fives and Happiness moments 🙂 Continue reading “High Fives & Happiness: You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

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High Fives & Happiness: The heart has no wrinkles

The heart has no wrinkles – unknown.

I am still very much on the nostalgia train after my recent getaway to celebrate a dear old friend’s nuptials. One of the discoveries was that one of our friends has the most amazing stash of photos from about 10 years ago, a period in my life that for some reason I have amazing memories of but not a single picture (won’t be saying that in 10 years time I bet). The biggest treasure of them all is a picture of Willie and I (yes, we’ve been together that long). It’s grainy and mostly out of focus as it was at one of the then infamous house parties, but as I looked at it, the first thing I thought was (other than damn I was skinny) was how we have aged. Hang-on, I mean in a good way. I can see how we have changed. I can see the effects of lack of sleep. I can see those laugh lines and those frown lines but I am not deterred by them. I see them more as a visual journal of the time that has passed and the experiences we have shared. Gives credibility to the adage that love is blind and the heart has no wrinkles. It is also one of my High Fives & Happiness moments this week!

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High Fives & Happiness: A good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything.

A good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything.” Irish proverb.

I’ve just had 4 days with a mountain of laughing (and a couple of actual mountains) and while not as much sleep as I would have hoped for, it was all uninterrupted and with no alarm clocks were set! Last year, was the first time ever that I had ventured off anywhere sans kids for some much-needed me-time, last week I did it a second time and while wedding celebrations were again the motivation, the two experiences could not have been more different. It was a crazy long weekend that involved missed flights, almost being blown off a mountain and so much nostalgia I may actually have become 5 years younger! It also made me take stock again of all the things in my current life that I am blessed with! Continue reading “High Fives & Happiness: A good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything.”

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High-Fives & Happiness: Be Happy

Today: Be Happy. Tomorrow: Be Happy. Everyday: Be Happy. Unknown

Sounds like a grand idea doesn’t it! Like most other habits, it’s making the choice one day at a time and Spring Cleaning out the clutter that brings you down! I find that listing my #highfivesandhappiness makes it easier to keep track of them and not lose sight of them in the clutter of everyday life: Continue reading “High-Fives & Happiness: Be Happy”

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High Fives & Happiness: People often see what they look for, and hear what they listen for.

“People generally see what they look for, and hear what they listen for,” Harper Lee (To Kill A Mockingbird).

This week has been full of some really fun and exciting moments but mostly made up of many a power struggle between the parents and the 5-year-old. So suffice it to say it has been a tough week. This quote in particular speaks to me this week because it is really easy for me to get trapped in monster mom mode where instead of reacting to each situation and scenario as a new event, I enter into it expecting drama which creates this vicious circle of destructive and negative behavior that helps no one. And sometimes, instead of a parent and two children in a discussion, we end up with 3 children and tears. So this week, I’m aiming to be more mindful . To pause just for a minute longer before reacting and to not anticipate the outcome. I’m sure it will also help that the monkeys are back at school this week 🙂 Continue reading “High Fives & Happiness: People often see what they look for, and hear what they listen for.”

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High Fives & Happiness: Better an oops than a what if.

Better an oops than a what if!

How many times do we not do something simply because we are hesitant about the outcome? When we’re kids we attack life by diving in headfirst. It’s how we learn to walk, run and become independent creatures. Along the way, we suffer failures, we’re laughed at, hurt and saddened and slowly we learn the worst trait of all – fear. I don’t mean the type of fear that stops you from seriously injuring yourself, I mean that niggling self-doubt that pops into our heads when we’re about to try something new or walk into a room full of strangers. The negative talk that questions whether you look like a flailing octopus on the dance floor or whether that necklace is just too loud for this particular group of friends. Well, this week is “Flailing Octopuses Unite” week so let’s try to find that inborn carefreeness that I’m sure is genetic and hidden away in our genetic make-up and dare to do what we want without the doubt. And if it goes a little awry, then, better an oops than a what if! Continue reading “High Fives & Happiness: Better an oops than a what if.”