In the age of all things Google, there is a vast amount of information at the touch of our fingertips and I’m sure I am not the only one who gets caught in the miasma of checklists, how-to guides and “expert” opinions that do nothing more than cultivate our innate tendencies to over think EVERYTHING. I’ve become more prone to getting stuck in the planning and information gathering phase of anything and everything since becoming a mom, probably because the stakes seem higher than ever. The truth however, is that the stakes are the same, life decisions I make for myself are no more or less important than the life decisions I make for my family and honestly, not making a decision is probably much worse than making the less than perfect one. You can always change something if you do not like it, but you have to start by choosing the something and then doing that something. So this week, I’m aiming not to look for how and what to do to be happy. This week, is the week to just be it. Be happy. No pressure, no goal, no checklist. Just happy.
For me, and the intention behindHigh Fives & Happiness it helps to take some time to smell the proverbial roses and take stock of those things in the past week that have made be happy, grateful and brought a smile.
I met up with old friends again this week and as always was amazed at how easy it is to just fall into the easy flow of conversation and laughter regardless of the time period that has passed. Did not expecting a simple morning of frill-free coffee and conversation would be so soul refreshing!
I had an uncharacteristically social week (#IntrovertsAreUs) which also included a media morning with Tishtash marketing agency. This is ordinarily for me both a highlight (because I love catching up with fellow bloggers) and a source of stress (because a room full of people I do not know is daunting on a good day). But it was a fantastic morning discovering new brands that I’ll be sharing more information about soon and reconnecting with fellow bloggers in person and not through news feeds and IG storied 🙂
I did some baking this week for the first time in forever for the boys’ school Spring Fayre. Baking (much more than cooking) is one of those things that just instantly makes me happy but for various reasons (including the fact that I really must stay away from carbs) I haven’t been doing much if any over the last few months. It was great to get out the cupcake tin and bake a batch, even more so when the boys were all smiles taking them into school the next day.
We have a full week ahead of being a family of 4 in the same city! ok, so maybe that sounds a bit sad, but this is pretty much the highlight of my week, we all manage fine with Wils traveling but it feels great when we’re all together 🙂
I had the best retail therapy this week and I will not apologise for it! It started with needing a new handbag and ended up with so much more including the satisfaction of buying a top that is 2 sizes smaller than the last one I bought just before starting Boot Camp!!!
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You must do the thing you think you cannot do – Eleanor Roosevelt.
Earlier today, at one of the many Spring Break play dates that have been organised to keep the monsters semi-civilised, one of the moms shared that she was starting art classes. There was polite interest and the immediate assumption that she had an artistic streak and was finally pursuing it while a Stay At Home Mum in Dubai. We were wrong. She is not an artist, it is not an unnurtured passion of hers, it is actually a fear. Something that she had held back on for her entire life because she was shy, scared and intimidated. She had spent her life avoiding art because she assumed it was a “weakness”. Incidentally, she had also spent her life avoiding taking a pole dancing fitness class for the same reason and turns out she really enjoys it. It got me thinking about how many things in life we steer clear of because we have a preconceived notion about how good we would be at it? It also made me think that maybe we are creating those preconceptions in our children. How many times have you said, “Oh, little X is more artistic than sporty,” or something as simple as “You’re not ….. enough to do…..” So this week, I’m aiming to put away those preconceptions, about myself and those around me, and try out at least one thing I think I cannot do. Here’s hoping it ends up as one of next week’s High Fives and Happiness moments 🙂 Continue reading “High Fives & Happiness: You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”→
I am still very much on the nostalgia train after my recent getaway to celebrate a dear old friend’s nuptials. One of the discoveries was that one of our friends has the most amazing stash of photos from about 10 years ago, a period in my life that for some reason I have amazing memories of but not a single picture (won’t be saying that in 10 years time I bet). The biggest treasure of them all is a picture of Willie and I (yes, we’ve been together that long). It’s grainy and mostly out of focus as it was at one of the then infamous house parties, but as I looked at it, the first thing I thought was (other than damn I was skinny) was how we have aged. Hang-on, I mean in a good way. I can see how we have changed. I can see the effects of lack of sleep. I can see those laugh lines and those frown lines but I am not deterred by them. I see them more as a visual journal of the time that has passed and the experiences we have shared. Gives credibility to the adage that love is blind and the heart has no wrinkles. It is also one of my High Fives & Happiness moments this week!
“A good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything.” Irish proverb.
I’ve just had 4 days with a mountain of laughing (and a couple of actual mountains) and while not as much sleep as I would have hoped for, it was all uninterrupted and with no alarm clocks were set! Last year, was the first time ever that I had ventured off anywhere sans kids for some much-needed me-time, last week I did it a second time and while wedding celebrations were again the motivation, the two experiences could not have been more different. It was a crazy long weekend that involved missed flights, almost being blown off a mountain and so much nostalgia I may actually have become 5 years younger! It also made me take stock again of all the things in my current life that I am blessed with! Continue reading “High Fives & Happiness: A good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything.”→
Today: Be Happy. Tomorrow: Be Happy. Everyday: Be Happy. Unknown
Sounds like a grand idea doesn’t it! Like most other habits, it’s making the choice one day at a time and Spring Cleaning out the clutter that brings you down! I find that listing my #highfivesandhappiness makes it easier to keep track of them and not lose sight of them in the clutter of everyday life: Continue reading “High-Fives & Happiness: Be Happy”→
“People generally see what they look for, and hear what they listen for,” Harper Lee (To Kill A Mockingbird).
This week has been full of some really fun and exciting moments but mostly made up of many a power struggle between the parents and the 5-year-old. So suffice it to say it has been a tough week. This quote in particular speaks to me this week because it is really easy for me to get trapped in monster mom mode where instead of reacting to each situation and scenario as a new event, I enter into it expecting drama which creates this vicious circle of destructive and negative behavior that helps no one. And sometimes, instead of a parent and two children in a discussion, we end up with 3 children and tears. So this week, I’m aiming to be more mindful . To pause just for a minute longer before reacting and to not anticipate the outcome. I’m sure it will also help that the monkeys are back at school this week 🙂 Continue reading “High Fives & Happiness: People often see what they look for, and hear what they listen for.”→
How many times do we not do something simply because we are hesitant about the outcome? When we’re kids we attack life by diving in headfirst. It’s how we learn to walk, run and become independent creatures. Along the way, we suffer failures, we’re laughed at, hurt and saddened and slowly we learn the worst trait of all – fear. I don’t mean the type of fear that stops you from seriously injuring yourself, I mean that niggling self-doubt that pops into our heads when we’re about to try something new or walk into a room full of strangers. The negative talk that questions whether you look like a flailing octopus on the dance floor or whether that necklace is just too loud for this particular group of friends. Well, this week is “Flailing Octopuses Unite” week so let’s try to find that inborn carefreeness that I’m sure is genetic and hidden away in our genetic make-up and dare to do what we want without the doubt. And if it goes a little awry, then, better an oops than a what if! Continue reading “High Fives & Happiness: Better an oops than a what if.”→
“I’m too busy working on my own grass to notice if yours is greener!” How amazing is this? I wish more people would adopt this philosophy. Life, parenting, health and everything in between is an individual journey. It’s not a race, it’s not a competition regardless of whether or not social media makes you feel and think that it is. It is your personal mission. There isn’t a target or assessment criteria and unfortunately no-one is going to give you a badge at the end of it for a job well done. It is YOUR journey which you can choose to enjoy …or not. So no, I’m not looking at your grass, I’m not fazed by its colour, its length or its lushness…too busy with mine! Continue reading “High Fives & Happiness: I’m too busy working on my own grass to notice if yours is greener!”→